So I have just returned from Game Night. I managed to find a guy on the internet who invites people over to his house for games once per week. Tonight we played Reiner Knizia's Poison while waiting for someone to arrive, and Mission: Red Planet once everybody was there.
It was fun meeting new people. It was fun playing new games. It was fun just being able to gab about mutual interests.
I definitely want to try to get there every week, but that will take some small "lifestyle changes" on my part.
I'm really not used to staying up late. Usually I'm in bed at 9:00. It sounds extreme, but some days I need to be at work by 6:00. I've found it much easier to approach every day like I need to be at work by 6:00. Unfortunately, that makes staying up to 11:00 on game night a bit of a task. This week I was lucky enough to have tomorrow off, so I can us caffeine to perk me up, but that's not something I can do regularly without paying a price.
From now on I'm going to have to start staying up until (*gasp*) 10:00. On most days this will mean absolutely nothing. The only difference is that when I do get up to go to work at 6:00, I'm going to pay for it a little bit on that day. The perk is that I will pay for it a little less on Thursday nights (and Friday mornings) when I stay up to play games.
It will be worth it just to get out and be with people someplace other than work. And these seem like decent people too.
I was first relieved to see that our host and his wife are Jewish. Although it sounds odd from an atheist, I really need Jewish people in my life and find comfort in their presence. For one thing, I grew up in a "reasonably Jewish" area. I have always known Jewish people and always had Jewish friends. It just feels right to me to have a Jewish presence nearby.
But, unlike the Christian presence, which often seems stifling and oppressive, the Jewish presence is non-threatening. The Jews are never trying to convert me, or convince me that I'm going to hell, or change my behavior to accommodate what they believe. If anything, the Jews are sympathetic because we're both religious minorities.
I guess the heart of the issue here is that a Jewish person will not freak out when I declare myself an atheist. He will respect my beliefs and allow us to carry on just like before, whereas Christians tend to get offend, and/or freak out, and/or try to convert me, and/or back away from me because I'm actually infested with demons.
In any case, hooray for Jewish gamers!
Tonight there were only a couple of other gamers. The is a big gaming convention in central Vermont this weekend, so the "regular crew" seemed to have bagged tonight. I guess there going to spend their whole weekend gaming, so they needed to do some of their more practical activities tonight.
Tonight I met Craig and Brian.
As near as I can tell Craig is something of a Luddite. He arrived by bicycle, and doesn't own a phone. Apparently he's living without two of the most indispensable pieces of modern technology in existence - the car and the phone. I'm not sure if he has a computer, but I suspect he doesn't. At this point I have to wonder if he uses light bulbs.
I don't hold any of this against him.
Apparently Craig grew up in a family of avid card players. As a result he's developed a habit of blowing on his cards every time he dealt a new hand. I don't believe that it's a matter of superstition for him, just mindless habit. He even blows on his cards when they have absolutely no bearing on anything. For example, in Mission: Red Planet everyone starts out with exactly the same hand of nine cards. There's no way his cards are better or worse than anyone else's - yet he blows on them anyway.
I admit, this habit is a little strange. Then again, Craig is strange. He doesn't even own a phone.
Brian, on the other hand, didn't have an remarkable foibles. He did seem to like to be "in charge" - when pieces needed moving he was the one who needed to move them. I don't think it was a conscious thing on his part, but it does appear to be some kind of inner need. I don't think it's a big deal, but it's certainly a defining personality trait. It's certainly not disturbing like a perpetual nose picker would be, or someone who only speaks in Tom Petty lyrics.
So now it's official. I have friends. I stay up late one night each week hanging out with people. I have a social life outside of work.
Pretty soon I might be able to think of Vermont as my home.